Your patterns are not who you are
They are just what kept you safe. My coaching approach recognizes that each person has a true essence that can never be touched. However because of trauma and socialization, this essence can get ‘covered up’ by protective patterns and coping strategies.
In our attempts to stay safe, we engage in patterns such as:
- People-pleasing
- Perfectionism
- Overworking/ overachieving
- Highly critical self talk
- Avoidance/numbing out
- Controlling our environments or people
- Getting into relationships with unavailable people
What you call self-sabotage, I call self protection. All this self protection can lead to a dysregulated nervous system and eventual burn out. It can leave you feeling:
You’re SO READY to stop feeling:
I know how you feel, because I lived most of my life this way. I people-pleased, performed and over-achieved constantly in an attempt to feel ‘good enough’. I was constantly burning out, had chronic pain and would vacilate between overwhelm and depression. I went to every therapist and doctor I could find but things didn’t shift until I understood what was really happening. I was dealing with a dysregulated nervous system that was stuck in fight or flight because of childhood trauma.
‘Trauma is not what happens to you, it’s what happens inside you because of what happens to you.’ – Gabor Maté
As a trained Life Coach and NLP Practitctioner and Certified Trauma Support Specialist, I’m here to help you to heal, integrate and thrive, so instead you can have:
